There is almost nothing worse than being angry at someone and having them not know you are angry. It's all so pointless. You just gotta tell 'em. Right? I said, RIGHT!?The only slightly worse thing I can think of is telling whoever it is that you're angry, and having them not understand what you're saying. A tad worse than the person not understanding your point, is going to great lengths to tell them by working the plan of the telling out in your mind thoroughly in order to get your point across accurately. Finally giving the telling one last go round, enunciating carefully, using words you know they will understand, checking your spelling, you carefully tell the person with whom you are angry one. last. time. And they still do not understand. Then you realize all this time it was you that needs to understand.
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Gah!
You and your wise-ness.
This will be on my mind much of the day....so thank you.
No really. Thank you.
Well said! I try to give it, and them, up to the holy spirit! If I say it enough times, it usually works, and I eventually reach the same conclusion you have.
Often I write things that may seem to be all about me or have a bit to do with my circumstances, but as I write them, I am often thinking about the bigger picture. And in writing this, in this case, this was about YOU, not me. Cuz I have learned and continue to learn this over and over again. It reared it's ugly head again yesterday but it was not me, it was a good friend who was suffering inside of it.
I have had to endure this test many times before I finally figured it out, and even now sometimes, I find myself inside of it again.
How 'bout that dirty sock photo? Nice huh?
Even when I'm right, it's not usually worth getting worked up over - but I continue to pursue the path of needing everyone to understand precisely where I'm coming from. Work in progress.
When I'm mad I hardly speak, preferred to be silent than to be misunderstood by others. I do this to avoid conflicts!
just catching up madly here - I usually just SAY 'I am furious with you!' - pretty clear to even the dimmest bulb in the box?
love the sock heh heh
Whew, glad I waited to comment and read your clarification before I went all weepy, wondering if it was ME you were mad at!!
Why do you have a picture of a dirty sock on your blog? Planning on making an X-rated puppet?
I once heard Anthony Hopkins speak, and he was asked, "What's the nicest thing you can say about someone?" He answered something like, "Fuck 'em. No, really. That's the best thing you can say about anyone. Because it means I don't know, I can't fix this, let God handle it, and I'm going to move past this. Fuck 'em. It's gotten me a long way in my life."
Now, anytime I'm angry with someone, I start to think "Fuck 'em," and I'm reminded of Hopkins, and that my job is just to move past it. (Plus it always kind of makes me laugh.)
oh YES!! fuck 'em works for me!! thanks for the tip Marste. I love Anthony Hopkins, so if he says it, I can too. Fuck 'em, the lot of 'em
happyfunpants [love your piccie!] I read your post as "You and your wise-ass" ehehehe
Got it.
been there.
not so eloquently.
but Ive been there.
Ha. My verification word is "tockos." Now I'm hungry.
Now I've forgotten what it was I was going to say...
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